I get it. Some people are into whips, chains and the occasional goat.
But the plot behind 50 Shades of Grey goes far beyond the scandal of domination and submission and into a cancer of devaluing manipulation.
(If you know the basic plot you can skip this paragraph) The plot to 50 Shades is a college girl who interviews a successful young entrepreneur. During the interview process she, having a sheltered background, is intrigued by his charm and mystery. He eventually establishes a relationship (non-romantic) with her with the intent to bring her into his home so he can perform domination and submission methods of sexual intercourse with her (chains, whips, “torture” apparatuses etc). She becomes accustomed to his treatment but ultimately realizes he has no intent for love but only to use her as a victim to his charm and object for his satisfaction.
What’s the problem?
The problem is that millions are finding entertainment in a story of a girl being manipulated and abused by a man who has no desire to pursue her romantically.
Is this how we value our women?
Is this how we train men to be intentional and women to be confident?
It’s funny how we protest this behavior when our friends, sisters, daughters etc. fall victim but we justify and celebrate it when it pleases us.
The problem is that we’re taking an engagement that should be rendered as sacred and intimate between two lovers and we’re reducing it to self-gratification instead of mutual-gratification. This perversion of sex is a one-sided appeasement of an unhealthy control issue that itemizes the victim and leaves her heartbroken and abused.
I wish there was more of an outrage about this. This is such a barrier in our efforts to redeem confidence in our women and chivalry in our men. Instead of restoring the aforementioned we are fanning the flame of misogyny.
What does this have to do with misogyny?
Men become misogynistic when they stop identifying women as women and start facilitating them as sex objects. Once the identity is gone, what is there to value? Respect? Appreciate? And once this value is gone it is less of an offense in their mind to objectify her. A large part of our society’s male population already boasts a sense of entitlement that they can have what they want even at the expense of female degradation.
But John, she consented!
She was manipulated! He literally capitalized off of his wealth, charm and Obama-level rhetoric to persuade her. She signed a contract for crying out loud! A contract that basically said he can perform the listed activities to her and she won’t say anything. Such legalistic agreements really identifies her as his property for self gratification. She was interviewing him due to his success, he is the one who initiated this saga. I’m not saying that she is off the hook but he definitely holds the majority of the fault here.
And this is something to be celebrated?
This Film Mocks The Beauty of Sex
Such extreme methods of sex and indulgence in such entertainment greatly undermines the sex between the everyday couple. When one finds entertainment in these films they become less and less satisfied with what their spouses can put out because they become so accustomed to finding pleasure in the unattainable.
I’ve observed a plethora of women in the Church who are raving about this movie. Love you sisters…but really!? Your husbands can’t watch porn but you can gather your fellow hens, reserve a limo and sip your wine on the way to see this filth? What kind of a double standard is this!?
For Christians, our relationship with Christ is the most important part of our lives and allowing sexuality outside of his ordained plan for sex causes us to grow farther away from Him and deeper into focusing on the pleasures of the world. -Meredith Potter
How is this movie helping your fellow sisters in Christ? What about the girls who look up to you? What about the girls who are new in the faith and are trying to separate their new life from the old? How does it teach your beloved sisters self-respect? When we celebrate 50 Shades of Grey, we pardon the truth that all were made in God’s image.
…but we boycott “Noah” because rock monsters are unbiblical?
Some people aren’t affected by it!
I call shenanigans. If people knew that they were negatively affected by it then do you think most of them would still see it? Influence is subtle and it strikes in the most appealing ways. Many girls will become subconsciously enticed into this behavior as a means to fulfill an empty void left by an abusive boyfriend or a father who left them. Men may find his manipulative tactics appealing as well which is an influence that will likely leave the theater with him.
Viewers, remember that we live in a society that has lost their view of each others individuality, beauty and value. Let’s make progress, not retreat. Let’s be a wave of morality. Let’s find value in what society has deemed objects. Let’s take the reigns back from our cultural downfalls and steer us back into a moral, valuing and an appreciative body.
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Hi, my name is John and I love coffee. As I write this I’m sitting in a local brewery sipping a “mudslide” espresso with cream and two and a half sugars. There are few things in life that I feel merit precise orchestration with no room for error, coffee is one of them. My life belongs to Jesus. I am his son and he is my King. His work in my life is reason enough for my faith to be made complete. He lived to die for me so that I may be credited righteous thus I will live for him. I don’t hold any radical theological views, other than I serve a radical God. I affirm scriptural inerrancy, infallibility and the Bible as God’s final authority in text. See full bio here